Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very interesting condition which is usually related to grandiosity, a huge urge for admiration and no empathy toward other people.
Narcissist usually believe that they are the most important person is everyone else’s life and they try to gain attention with manipulation and belittling others.
Below, we will present you with 5 dangerous narcissistic tactics:
- Playing the victim
Narcissists have a skill of making you feel as if they are the victims. When in fact you are the one being victimized. They have a habit of turning things to their own advantage by making you feel they are the victim in every situation.
For example, if they are late for an event, or they don’t show up at a certain agreed meeting. They will say it is your fault, since you didn’t give them the right info about the time and date. They will never take the blame, regardless of the situation. Eventually, you will be questioning yourself about your actions and you will start believing what they say.
Private and public shaming
These type of people have a habit of shaming others regardless of the environment you are at. They will make you feel small and stupid, and will comment on how intelligent they are when compared to you.
Sometimes, they can even finish their belittling with a comment like “just kidding”, but you must know that everything they do is on purpose and they have a goal to hurt you and make you feel small and unimportant.
This is a type of manipulation which will make you doubt your own sanity. For example, if you mention something they said, they will tell you that you are crazy and insist they never said such a thing and that it never happened.
They will continue by telling you that you are too sensitive and that you are being irrational. Eventually, you will start doubting yourself and your perception of reality. This manipulation can be really dangerous.
Gaining complete control
Narcissists want to be in total control of conversations, social gatherings, bills and even simple meals. They will start taking over your life, one step at a time and you will start feeling as if you cannot survive without them.
Their controlling goes as far as your clothes, your friends and you can simply forget about your wishes. You will become their string puppet.
In the beginning of the relationship, your narcissistic partner may compliment you extensively. But after a while they will change their attitude and they will start turning the compliments into things you need to change and improve.
For instance, they will comment that you need to change your clothes or your hair style, that you eat too much or that you are stupid. All of these negative comments become so regular that you will start losing your self-esteem and start suffering. You will start feeling worthless.